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About Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers I had to earn respect by proving that I could effectively raise my son on my own. January 17, 2007. And boy, there's a lot of emails coming in. I am still raising my son, but he sees my commitment to several activities that keep me calm and balanced. In 2019, 15 states had wait lists or had frozen their intake for child care assistance, with wait times ranging from 90 days to two years. Worse, simplistic statistics can feed unfound prejudice and fear. The former president of the United States was raised by his single mother. support receipt. A similar conclusion comes from a study of 39 nations: Children were better off if they were raised by a single mother than by two married parents who were arguing all the time. And many women who were financially secure find themselves suddenly in a very different financial situation after divorce. In an interview for Guardian, Alicia highlighted her mother's strength. I'm a single mother because my husband died. They are younger, less educated and more likely to be living in poverty than are fathers who are raising children without a spouse or partner in the household. And I'm going to be a good mother, and I'm so excited to hear that somebody's got an upstanding freshman in college, a single mother. With all the endless negative statistics about fatherless households, do you ever feel discouraged about your sons future? Email us, talk@npr.org. The share of single fathers that is Hispanic is close to the share among single mothers (24% and 22%, respectively), but is higher than the share among married fathers (17%). But, you know, I guess I have to say, you know, it's a pretty big question to ask someone in the office, right? Obama Sr. stayed in school in Hawaii, and Dunham returned to Seattle with her newborn baby, Barack. As the title suggests, it focused mainly on the relationship he had with his father, Barack Obama Sr. And as you know, studies suggest the children pay the price. Readmore. The Motherlode blog has a weekly email. This Harvard research is part and parcel of a larger effort to call into question the idea that married, two-parent families matter not just for Black children but, indeed, all children. And my child was seven months old when his father died, and I have to say I heard your - one of your guests say that it's not an issue about demonizing, but there is - if it's unconscious or subconscious, there is a level of demonization that does go on, and it happens - I watch the single mothers with children that I know. In 2008, 1.7 million. That's five years before he becomes a community development person in Chicago.". Single parent households in both the US and England have jumped from less than 10 percent in the 1970s to roughly 30 percent today. The same pattern is reflected in poverty status across these household types. I was struck by how a room full of boisterous teens fell silent as they watched the film that mirrored many of their own experiences. Roughly two thirds received free or reduced-price meals. So today, we want to hear from single mothers. First and foremost, there has been a marked increase in the share of non-marital births. Single moms are not invited to dinner or barbecues with other families. When we come back, we'll bring you an update on Libya. In contrast, only 7.5% of children in two parent families were counted as poor. on the sons of single parents, who are usually women. I said no, he doesn't have a father. Compared with fathers heading households with two married parents, single dads are younger, less educated, less financially well-off and less likely to be white. So I think our society is biased to the point that we've put these women in really difficult positions. The prevalence of poverty presents a more striking difference between the two groupswhile 21% of fathers who are living without a spouse or partner are in poverty, this share rises to 30% for fathers who are living with a partner. 3 Myths of Children Raised by Single Mothers. And, you know, when my son was about a year old, I applied for a fellowship at Stanford. The share of fathers that are single fathers declines markedly at older ages16% of those ages 30-39 are single fathers, and 13% of those ages 40 or older are. CONAN: This is TALK OF THE NATION from NPR News. Each week, we send out a newsletter containing the news and headlines that matter most to parents. Some parents raise kids alone. But they draw a line in the sand when it comes to single motherhood. Email us, talk@npr.org. But now, progressives are calling into question even the kids-benefit-from-fathers argument Obama made so powerfully and poignantly. Copyright 2011 Janny Scott. SHELLY: Of course. than its high-income peers to help single parents balance jobholding and caregiving. His research (with his co-author, Laurie Maldonado) compared American single-parent families with single-parent families in 16 other high-income countries, and found that American single-parent families are worst The term single father includes men in a variety of family circumstances. But as long as I'm generally happy and my kids are happy and healthy, I'm not concerned with what others think. So you have to ask, compared to what? 3. And during that time, everybody that I met said: Well, you'll never get full custody. And comments like that, you know. But he has been an active part in my son's life. " [Having no contact with my father] helped show me what a strong woman my mother was, and made me want to be strong like her." So when we say single mothers are bad for society, it's not the single mothers. Rich Morin, senior editor, Pew Research CenterMary Pols, author, Accidentally On Purpose: The True Tale Of A Happy Single Mother. Student borrowers advocate Biden debt relief program amid Supreme Court battle, Trump and DeSantis attend dueling Republican conferences as GOP primary field heats up, China will target the US homeland in war over Taiwan, Army leader predicts, Users recoil at new iPhone feature that slows charging when clean energy isn't used. Reprinted by arrangement with Riverhead, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc. First Family Fabrics: Batiks From Obama's Mother, Indonesia And Obama's Personal Path To Democracy, President's Sister Pays Homage To Mother In Children's Book, Obama's Sister: U.S. To See A Family Tapestry. Its hard. Right now, I'm just wondering if, you know, the Downeast Oil Company had deposited $600 more of oil into my furnace today while I've been gone and I'll have to pay it, but things are better. One of my son's friends at Montessori preschool, you know, he's just always asking: Can we have a play date with him? It's not been good. I'm going to be with him. In my 22 years of leading therapy groups, Ive discovered that men and teenage boys raised by single mothers are frequently more sensitive to the feelings and needs of others, and more mindful in relationships with women. But without my usual supports and connections,the losses and obstacles started to feel taller and more painful. How do people treat you? I personally have never let statistics dictate my life, nor my sons future. George Washington's mother, Mary, became a widow when he was 11. Overall, two-thirds (67%) of households with children are headed by two married parents; in 1960, this share was 92%.4. I interviewed nearly two hundred colleagues, friends, professors, employers, acquaintances, and relatives, including her two children. And - but when I went back six months later, I did. 2023 USA TODAY, a division of Gannett Satellite Information Network, LLC. You know, I think the system, our laws, our schools, our judges, are prejudiced against single mothers. There are still nuclear families in America, but there are also unmarried parents, gay parents, families without children, and single parents. There are some notable differences between single mothers and single fathers. Ms. POLS: There is a little bit. In the beginning, particularly because of speaking to so many people about President Obama's mother's life, and of course that covered his birth, I really had no question as to where he was born. Halle Berry's parents, Judith Ann Hawkins and JeromeJesse Berry, divorced when she was 4 years old. In 1966, Dunham married Lolo Soetoro, an Indonesian man studying in Honolulu on a student visa. But I'm single in a category that rarely gets acknowledged. Among all other ethnic groups, Native American female-headed families with children had the highest poverty rate. Follow them on Twitter:@bradwilcoxIFSand@IanVRowe. For children born to mothers with less than a high school education, growing up in a married household doesn't make as much of a difference: 67.9% of children growing up in unmarried households . "Later, one friend describes her as wistful about his decision to move to Chicago and root himself in Chicago and emphasize the sort-of black part of himself. A year later, he was approached by a literary agent, who asked if he would be interested in writing an autobiography about his life. Dunham taught English, worked in rural development and consulted on microfinance projects. You know, to me, I think a lot about the sort of lack of single-mother role models we have in our culture, and maybe because I'm a movie critic, I really latched on to the mother in "Toy Story.". If you're looking for a particular successful celebrity who grew up with no dad, this list is for you. Ironically, the work of another scholar just across the Harvard campus from Cross, Raj Chetty, also refutes the idea that Black fathers dont matter. Families headed by women of color fared even worse. ADEL: Question number four: Yes, my child doesn't have a father, and I will be - and I run into that I can't tell you how much. Nevertheless, mention that you're a single mom, and all-too-many of us still have to cut through a thick, gristly layer of stigma before we're given our proper due." CONAN: And broadly, the groups broke into three categories: accepters, rejecters and, in the middle, people you call skeptics. Biden and Harris openness about these family influences has also given power to a job that is often stigmatized by Republicans. No one has ever described her in that way to me. Does this conversation about women raising children alone resonate with you? Director Daphne McWilliams bravely explores the health and hardiness of men raised by single mothers. Ms. McWilliams suddenly finds herself unwittingly thrust into the world of single moms. CONAN: Rich Moran, I wonder: Have you got any kind of database that can show whether attitudes have changed over the years? And this from Jeanie(ph) in Washington, D.C.: I'm sure you're going to receive lots of emails that echo my sentiment, but I was raised, for better or worse, by a single mother. We went to a Campboree this past weekend, and when I registered my son, the man who was registering said: And are you registering his father? CONAN: Rich Moran is of the Pew Research, and you can find a link to his survey and find a link to that poll at our website, at npr.org. CONAN: Yet they also look at the president of the United States and realize he was pretty much raised by a single mother. If a single mother is able to work, her earning power still lags significantly compared with mens, about 82 to a $1 for the same job leaving a wage gap of 18 on the dollar. Median household income is adjusted using an equivalence scale that corrects for economies of scale, and is then standardized to represent a three-person household. In the capsule version of Obama's life story, she is the white mother from Kansas coupled alliteratively with the black father from Kenya. Mary Ball Washington was neither a villain nor a saintbut rather an exceptionally strong and resilient woman, a single mother who raised five children and instilled in them qualities of. And then it kind of faded out a bit. And even though divorce rates have leveled off in recent decades, they remain higher than they were in the 1960s and 1970s. It just means that the chances - the likelihood that bad things will happen is increased if you grow up in a single-parent household. And I'll take the answer off the air. " It's hard. Ms. POLS: Well, you know, I've had - I'm sort of a little bit of a freak of a single mother in that I feel like even economically, my life has actually gotten better as a single mother. Especially during the pandemic, I have had to find new reserves of strength. "When I was five, my parents split and my mother. And I don't feel that way. He's just gone. You know, if a - one of my clients, you know, gets kicked out of school for getting into a school fight and has to go to court, the judge blames the mom, says you're not putting in the family structure in place to keep your child well-behaved, and that kid usually gets adjudicated delinquent, is on probation for 12 months, gets into another fight, and they're stuck in the system. Wayward Sons, a report on the emerging gender gap in labor markets and education, from Third Way, The poverty rate for single-mother families in 2020 was 23.4%, nearly five times more than the rate (4.7%) for married-couple families. A growing share of lower-income children are raised by their mother but not their father, and research shows that those children are at a particular Parallel patterns obtain for girls. ADEL: I find it true in Cub Scouts, as well. Binyamin Appelbaum spoke to Professor Autor for The Timess Business Day section (Study of Mens Falling Income Cites Single Parents). Single fathers are younger than married fathers, but older than single mothers. Sean Grover, L.C.S.W., is an author and psychotherapist who leads one of the largest group therapy practices in the United States. Angelina Jolie is certainly near the top of the list. "At different moments in her life she is upset, and at one point, in his senior year of high school in Hawaii, she goes back just to be with him because she realizes it's the last year of his childhood," she says. This is the case for just 38% of single mothers and fully 59% of married fathers. They are also younger and less likely to be white. It's the very definition of a vicious cycle, and anecdotes about personal experience or presidents raised by single mothers can't change the numbers or explain them. Among children with single mothers, 38% get food stamps and 62% dont. In the next chapter, she is the naive idealist, the innocent abroad. Of course, there is a wide array of single mothers. According to 2017 data, there are more than 16 million unmarried parents in America raising over 24million children. Ms. POLS: You know, I - well, first of all, I just have to say to the woman in Alaska that soon they will start brushing their own teeth and putting on their own pajamas, which is really a wonderful thing. Single fathers include those fathers who report that their minor child has been living or staying with them for at least two months. And they read about single motherhood, and they see the consequences of it. Young white men from single-parent families, for instance, are more likely to end up in prison than young Black men from intact, two-parent homes. In some cases, a non-marital partner may also be a biological or adoptive parent of the minor child in the household. I'm fascinated by this subject. She met the camera head-on, dressed in hand-loomed textile dyed the color of indigo, a silver earring half hidden in the cascading curtain of her dark hair. I do think that sociologically, it does have a lot to do with our culture and the way that our culture views women. My reason was that I know how hard it is to be the sole economic and nurturing support and that our society does so little help. Im aspiring to be anti-racist and patriotic. But they always called me first - always. Janny Scott was a reporter for The New York Times from 1994 to 2008. And it made me really sad because my son loved this boy. The increase in single father households is likely due to a number of factors, most of which have also contributed to the increase in single mother households, and to the decline of two-married-parent households. Single parents should be respected for how they meet a greater challenge. He also, at her insistence, took English correspondence classes and regularly woke up before dawn to go over his English language skills. Recently, Ms. McWilliams and I screened the film for teenagers at Williamsburg Charter High School in Brooklyn. 3. "And she believed that he would never get that if he didn't have a strong English-language education. I was also older. hide caption. According to the latest available data, 13.4% had no health coverage. That often doesn't happen, and it doesn't mean that children who are raised by single mothers or in other arrangements somehow turn out inevitably wrong. The Motherlode blog welcomes our new artist-in-residence, illustrator Equally dramatic differences emerge at the other end of the education spectrum; just 17% of single fathers (and 18% of single mothers) have a bachelors degree, compared with 40% of married fathers. What did you find inspirational about the interviews with men who grew up without fathers? 7 Among those who were laid off or looking for work, less than a quarter (22.4%) received unemployment benefits. Teresa Augello raised Alicia all by herself in the chaotic streets of Hell's Kitchen in New York City and taught her how to be empathetic and kind. In 1972, Scott says, Dunham rejoined her son in Hawaii and stayed there during his middle school years. " (My mother) came here from India at age 19 to pursue her dream of curing cancer," Harris said. In Dreams from My Father, the memoir that helped power Obama's political ascent, she is the shy, small-town girl who falls head over heels for the brilliant, charismatic African who steals the show. You have to be steadfast in your decisions as the leader of your family. In terms of household financial status, single fathers are much better off than single mothers, and much worse off than married fathers. How do people treat you? Almost one third (24.3%) of single mother families were food insecure, 12 about one-ninth (11.7%) used food pantries, one third spent more than half their income on housing, which is generally considered the threshold for severe housing cost burden.. Anyway, Shelly, thanks very much for the call. This list of famous people raised by single mothers looks into the surprising childhoods of some of your favorite celebrities. We have an email here from Shel(ph) in Durham, North Carolina: I took that Pew poll, and I answered that single moms were bad for society. We see many of them in action, waking their kids in the morning, preparing meals, dropping their sons and daughters off at school. No, he doesn't have a father. The hit was felt even harder for the lowest wage single moms who work in service jobs. Stephen Colbert was raised by his mother, Lorna, after his father, James, and two brothers, Peter and Paul, died in a plane crash in 1974 when Colbert was 10 years old. Obama was largely raised in Hawaii for the first six years of his life, but in 1967, he moved to Indonesia with his mother to join Soetoro, who worked as a surveyor for the Indonesian government and then a consultant for Mobil. Cohabiting single fathers are particularly disadvantaged on most socio-economic indicators. They gave me a bag lunch and little help. You can also join the conversation on our website. As the fathers in IN A PERFECT WORLD demonstrate, being a parent offered them the opportunity to be the father that they never had. Director Daphne McWilliams bravely explores the health and hardiness of men raised by single mothers. The median income for families led by a single mother in 2020 was about $51,168, well below the $106,921 median for married couples. You have to be financially wise, and mostly, you are forced to reach outside of yourself to find alternative emotional and social supports. Men can become more involved parents and the children of single mothers can gain positive career role models. And for the last couple of years, his dad has been out of work. There was a period in 1979 where she was working in what her boss described to me as 'community development in Java.' And so my whole life, Ive tried to be for Michelle and my girls what my father was not for my mother and me, he told the graduates of Morehouse College in 2013. CONAN: Well, we want to find out if those attitudes translate into the experiences of single mothers. We're all living the family dynamic, as parents, as children, as siblings, uncles and aunts. Knowing what you value will help you build the most meaningful life possible. We cant know for certain whether the cohabiting partner is a biological or adoptive parent to children in the household. I devoted my life to being his mom. and Wasserman or anyone else has a definitive explanation for the gender differences in outcomes. Ms. POLS: Yes, I think that's true. President Barack Obama was raised by his mother, Stanley Ann Dunham, from the time that he was born until he was 4 years old, when she married Lolo Soetoro. To describe Dunham as a white woman from Kansas is about as illuminating as describing her son as a politician who likes golf. Without their generosity, I could not have written this book. "At the University of California, Berkeley, she met my father, Donald Harris . CONAN: And this survey, well, it's a little complicated. . In 1990, about 498,000 single fathers were cohabiting (39% of single father households), and in 2011 that number had more than doubled to 1.1 million. Of course, I know others view me differently. 9. Well, parenthood and - under any circumstance has its challenges. I certainly do feel different, you know, a little bit out of the norm at school when I'm dropping him off or, you know, just among parents at play dates and things like that. And Pew Research surveys find that the public believes that a fathers greatest role is to provide values to his children, followed by emotional support, discipline and income support. PAIGE: This is very interesting to me, just from a sociological perspective and being a budding sociologist in school right now and raising two children, two teenagers as a single mother. Sometimes research results are politically incorrect, or even offensive for some of us, and still worth talking about. 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