i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

He grew up in a family where the dog stays outside. I say another room because if they are in the same room, theyll keep jumping at the bed until they are brought into itthereby TRAINING YOU to bring them in the bed. I knew this dog was hurting. it was a very ill mannered badly behaved dog and I was determined to train her. (He made the comment she would be happier there.) sorry needed somewhere to vent, and this seemed to be as good of a place as any. I still get to see him occasionally & even get to keep him when they go on vacation. When my oldest was 8, I got her a kitten. I am miserable bc I am not sure if I am allergic to him, or its just my plain old allergies that I had before. Dump the bf and get with someone who lives your dog as much as you do! Ridiculous!!! my question is , is it wrong of me to get upset cause the dog gets all the attention and I barely get any. I absolutely freaked out. My husband gets upset with me for yelling at the dog when he snarls at me and it drives me crazy! I read your OP, and I am so sorry to hear that you were treated that way. He repeatedly says how much he doesnt like him and talks about how its gross when he gets on the furniture. Im at the point of getting an apartment because at this point I dream of living in a home without animals. She also has a this high pitched bark that she does when shes in her kennel at night because she wants to get out. Which ended up in a giant arguement of me supposedly not loving her or respecting her because I stated I no longer would take care of her dog. My husband knew I loved animals and before now he was OK with it. and my husband had never discouraged this. 138 Sponsored by Spokeo Are you worried that your partner is talking to someone? For more information, please see our so I was against them being out there while we eat, I needed peace! It is stressful for me as well but I seem to handle some things better. They must be let outside, fed, played with and walked. I am not an animal person. I realized that I only had patience pre pregnancy because I wanted to be a mother. Leaving my work, school, friends, and family behind to follow him and his new job in Texas. How many times have we apologized for getting into a bad fight only to get into another one a week later when he throws it in my face. The only problem is he is also a huge shedder which wasnt a problem before I got married because my Husky had a lovely home outside the house, until after I got married and my husband who is 50x times the animal lover than I am decided that its too cold in California for my husky to live outside he should move inside, it was hard for me to accept the work that was heading in front of me with the my darling husky moving inside and the heap of hair that will be coming into the house. I also told him that we are never close like we used to be, that instead of reaching for me, you reach for the dog. I am an animal lover. Not to mention how unsanitary it is. Our lives are completely dominated by the wants/needs of these two hyper, needy dogs. He thinks dogs belong outside. Pet lovers are really just nasty softcore beastiality enthusiasts. That may be an argument that breaks you up so be ready for that talk. Not to mention she always gets in the way. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and in the past year he was my biggest supporter on me finally getting a dog of my ownwell now a year or so later my dog still needs lots of training but my boyfriend has simply made it clear he will never move in or get a place with me if I have my dog . I do not believe that you should suddenly expect your dog to sleep without you after a routine that has gone on for some years. Or perhaps animals have been the only creatures that have ever treated us better than our spouses or how our fellow humans. act. Ive even had people ask me why do you even have a dog? These people are seriously detached from reality. Many times hes said if I reprimand the dog he will choke the life out of me. One of the things I miss most, is being able to sleep in on the weekends with my bf. However, he rarely comes over after work and complains if I ask him to. I had fell in love with this man, not being made aware of his relationship with his dog. Love from a non-mongamous creature the same as every other human? When I mention these things I instantly become a giant A hole. Also, perhaps its not even necessarily your dog that he is annoyed by, but the way you are *treating* your dog. I dont think a dog should snarl or growl at anyone, much less one of his masters. Well that worked well but at night shed chew stuff. That may be beneficial to you, and when you find a man who is serious about marriage, you will know because he is willing to spend time reading those same books together with you! This decreases the amount of time and emotional energy you have available to spend on your relationship with each other. I could never endure this again. He cuddles with Fido on the couch every night, while Im on a separate chair. (and the current caretakers dont want to keep them, they are also tired with all the pee and poop and hairs, so thats not an option). He, of course, did nothing to help the situation but get irritated with me. That does not mean you cant have a relationship with your pet or love it but like my girlfriend she lets the dog sleep on the bed and when it poops and pees theres a small useless punishment behind it. I deserve more than this. Its ok not to like a dog. You know its a lot when there are animal hair tumbleweeds throughout your home. Im standing firm & want him to go to my therapist with me so perhaps she can explain it to him better than I am. I wish the best for you from one dog lover to another. I would have put up with the other two cats. I hate them. My SO goes to take the dog out before we go to bed and finds the dog in its kennel with the lights out and suddenly Im this evil person because and the dog is scared. It really does feel like Im both second string and maid. I feel your pain. Normally, I should feel that i cant wait to have our own place, but not now. He will be terrible un-happy if he gets rid of them but as I said Im totally unhappy with them being at home. Because of that, your husband may think the do is far better off in your house free of little ones. Does he really need to do that? I live with my boyfriend, his chihuahua and my labradoodle and I cannot stand his dog! First, to answer your question. According to her he also gets, cold all the time, so he wants to go under the covers. Which Im not saying anyone should want that, but no offense at some point you have to grow up and realize everything will die. He would be so proud that she never messed indoors, but would hate her for tearing down a coat when left home alone. Me and my partner have been together for nine years and I relocated to his country in order to live with him. No I didnt want another dog and didnt have any plan to neuter my dog Caesar. Im a mess right now. But I want to get your opinions, I want to know if how I feel is just insanity or am I being logical. what a pain. Shes a straight up intelligent manipulative bag. To be honest, we cannot complete the obedience train on a specific day because it is a consistent and ongoing process where you can teach the dog new tricks and commands every day. My boyfriend, let's call him Steve, is a dog lover. First, I am not a dog hater. I cant believe how passionate this subject has become in my life! Is that too much to ask? he just did it to be dominant and its my husbands fault for refusing to accept the fact his dog needed more training than he was willing to givehe said i told u i would have to get rid of my dog because of you..like i purposely sacrificed my baby to his dog just because i hate the dog.ughhhlike its my fault his dog has to go because it was my child that was the victim.no i just wanted my kids to be safe and the dog to be in a better suited home his whole family said he never should have allowed the dog around kids at all and im right and he just dont wana admit he was wrongnow we have to take the dog to a rehabilitation shelter and my husband is upset to have to end his relationship with his beloved hell hound this way..and i can only say i told u so..he finally did confess to me tonight that he was afraid the whole time that this would happen and hes sorry he endangered our kids by insisting the dog stay here and by not listening to me about training or re homing the doghe spent the entire day with our baby girl and feels terrible.as bad as i wanted to just put the dog down myself i dont have the heart i just hope this shelter can find someone that has no small kids and the ability to deal wth this kind of agression.i feel bad for the dog and my husbandbut i feel worse for my daughteri hope u can find some sane middle ground in your situation..i never did and my child suffered because husband had to put an animal above his human family. I have 2 other dogs and 2 kids here to take care of also. Save yourself while you still can. I am glad the dogs are old and will not live forever. When he is around she hardly gets off her bed and when he goes out she jumps up and acts normal and happy. Pets are creatures of habit, and cannot be transferred from home to home like a toy just because someone doesnt want them around. Yikes Alisa. Just disturbing. If he shouts at a little dog because he is an insecure man , he will probably do the same to his wife or potential children. people could not get near the human because her behavior got so possessive. I also hated it when the dog would sleep on my pillow or by my side of the bed and it was also joked about when I mentioned it. Im very attached to him. When she arrived she was on the couch. The huge red flag: a couple of weeks into our relationship my partner said he had to tell me a secret and that he hoped I would understand. If this is the situation, you will have a hard time solving this issue. Mind you this is a small dog who has lived in the house his whole life. Yes animals are fun and amazing, but they are animals. He wasnt over the moon about my dog but he grew to tolerate and even help out if I would be home late from work or out for the day. He works on his own time and has more than enough time and energy to take care of her properly. Loyalty and being faithful is deeply embedded in my nature however and to be told in a blanket statement that all humans arent by someone who doesnt know me is incredibly rude. There are PLENTY out there who would appreciate your dream and realize how AWESOME you are. I will say he is really good at caring for her and feeding her.. but also thinks she is toy take out when he see fit and then when she ask up doesnt know when to play and not knowing the difference and then gets yelled at.. out of control I can handle most.. saddens me.. .. In fact, if the dog bitten kids or your guest more than once, the situation might be a little bit difficult to handle unless you made enormous of word of honors to correct this behavior. I love animals, i have a dog that I love to bits, but I absolutely HATE my wifes dog. My partner has never really been a fan of dogs (animals in general) but agreed to getting one to make me and the kids happy. And I say that as an animal lover, and have had animals my entire life! If the dog is the cause of many conflicts in your family, its a good idea to consult a professional psychologist to seek help. If you still cannot someone, its better to interview several people and give the dog to someone you totally believe and feel comfortable with. And ofcourse I would want them a good new home. Why do you want to violate someone elses free will? My fianc s daughter (8) hates dogs and my fianc is not a pet person. There are deep underlying issues for this type of thinking! I was utterly devastated. 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